Topics covered: A definition of dialogue, a definition of love, how they come together in conversation, understanding common humanity, the requirements of dialogue, facing others through dialogue, love and dialogue in therapy. Length: 50:58
- We can see our monsters, our enemies, and strangers as human beings. This seeing is love.
- Polyphony: The self as a position of a multitude of ideas that inform one another and converge in our mind an experiences. There is no need to choose one over another. Polyphony is complexity.
- Human existence is dialogical.
- The I-Thou Relation: Moments when we can be fully present with others in complete honesty, and also invite and accept others’ truth. Once this occurs in a relationship, it can occur again.
- The I-Thou relation mimics the reality of what it means to be human. As a result, within these moments, we also encounter the wholeness of existence.
- Imagining the real: It’s possible to concretely imagine the reality of another during the I-Thou relation (during dialogical moments). To be present to the degree that the other person’s experience is understandable, from their perspective.
Dialogism is the foundation of dialogue as a conversation.
- Love is consent
- Love is the foundation of human evolution; it is evolutionary
- Love is the reason language exists
- Love can be individually carried into relationships and create a relational space of love
- Love is wisdom
- Love reveals a collective consciousness
- The experience of collective consciousness is love
- Love is virtuous; it is a way of being
Paolo Freire—"Love is, at the same time, the foundation of dialogue, and dialogue itself."
- Love is freedom
- Love is faith
Love-as-Dialogue: "Love becomes a felt experience of interacting with others in dialogue, because dialogue allows for and invites participants to be part of a process, a togetherness, that brings to the center of the meeting the reality that as human beings, we are the same" (Rivera-Walter, 2017).
Dialogue is Love in Action
Murray Bowen: Facing Our Parents
- Developing a person-to-person relationship
- Pushing through anxiety develops relational skills that can be transferred to all relationships
Is Dialogue Always Worthwhile?
- We honor our human experience
- It’s about the engagement, not the response
- “Facing” primes the interaction
- Disengagement is betrayal
- Dialogical living—the dialogical way—is found in choosing engagement as response
Love-as-Dialogue in Therapy
Therapy as Encounter
- Dialogical Practice
- Relational Meaning
- Turn your love on
- Love for clients is needed for change
- Love influences and generates specific language
A Systemic View of Love
- Therapy as first a human interaction
- Welcoming “love” into therapy conversations
- Standing for integration of humanity first in training and practice.
Rivera-Walter, I. (2017). Love as Dialogue: Finding Human Connection In Conversation. Nova Southeastern University, Davie, FL.
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