Topics covered: A definition of dialogue, a definition of love, how they come together in conversation, understanding common humanity, the requirements of dialogue, facing others through dialogue, love and dialogue in therapy. Length: 50:58
We can see our monsters, our enemies, and strangers as human beings. This seeing is love.
Polyphony: The self as a position of a multitude of ideas that inform one another and converge in our mind an experiences. There is no need to choose one over another. Polyphony is complexity.
Human existence is dialogical.
The I-Thou Relation: Moments when we can be fully present with others in complete honesty, and also invite and accept others’ truth. Once this occurs in a relationship, it can occur again.
The I-Thou relation mimics the reality of what it means to be human. As a result, within these moments, we also encounter the wholeness of existence.
Imagining the real: It’s possible to concretely imagine the reality of another during the I-Thou relation (during dialogical moments). To be present to the degree that the other person’s experience is understandable, from their perspective.
Dialogism is the foundation of dialogue as a conversation.
Love is consent
Love is the foundation of human evolution; it is evolutionary
Love is the reason language exists
Love can be individually carried into relationships and create a relational space of love
Love is wisdom
Love reveals a collective consciousness
The experience of collective consciousness is love
Love is virtuous; it is a way of being
Paolo Freire—"Love is, at the same time, the foundation of dialogue, and dialogue itself."
Love is freedom
Love is faith
Love-as-Dialogue: "Love becomes a felt experience of interacting with others in dialogue, because dialogue allows for and invites participants to be part of a process, a togetherness, that brings to the center of the meeting the reality that as human beings, we are the same" (Rivera-Walter, 2017).
Dialogue is Love in Action
Murray Bowen: Facing Our Parents
Developing a person-to-person relationship
Pushing through anxiety develops relational skills that can be transferred to all relationships
Is Dialogue Always Worthwhile?
We honor our human experience
It’s about the engagement, not the response
“Facing” primes the interaction
Disengagement is betrayal
Dialogical living—the dialogical way—is found in choosing engagement as response
Love-as-Dialogue in Therapy
Therapy as Encounter
Turn your love on
Love for clients is needed for change
Love influences and generates specific language
A Systemic View of Love
Therapy as first a human interaction
Welcoming “love” into therapy conversations
Standing for integration of humanity first in training and practice.
Rivera-Walter, I. (2017). Love as Dialogue: Finding Human Connection In Conversation. Nova Southeastern University, Davie, FL.
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